Big Smiles for the BSA

THE PROBLEM RANT...
 So I have a boy how is boy scout and when we started there was one Patrol and then more boy's where add and the Patrol was broken in to two Patrols no big deal and time goes by and a few of my boys decide that they no long want to show to our patrol meetings or the troop meeting but when they feel like it and one or two or drop out and one moves away so we had to merge the two patrols together and form a whole new patrol. With time both Patrol's managed to gain money to buy supplies for camping or what ever else the patrol might need as long as the boys make the decisions  because it is there money with guidance from the Patrol adviser. Now for the time we got our money I have been trying to buy the boys new cooking equipment but was unable to do it before the Patrols merge and the new Patrol Adviser refuse to buy then new equipment or anything they wants.  he believes the money belongs to him not the boys. So I did the wrong thing and did an end run around and went to the boys and told them that they had Money to spend for new stuff and need to spend some of it. Because this years service projects are coming up and we might not get any money out of it because we have not spent any of the money we got from last years. Now the Patrol also has twice as much as any new incoming. So the Patrol adviser naturally is not happy with me but he finally agreed with the boys and broken down and said OK buy the stuff. SO I go home and make a phone call or two and have then money ready to pick up and a list of the stuff the boys wanted when I get and e-mail saying don't buy any thing..
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Patrol Adviser
Do not buy anything for the patrol. If you do it will need to be returned. I thought about everything you said and its clear to me that good decisions will not be rushed. I will buy for the patrol and get reimbursed from the troop on my timeline.

Turn the tents back into the troop next week.   I will draw tents for the boys before Junes camp out.

Please don't speak for the patrol anymore.

ME:
Please explain why, these are the things that the BOYS said that they wanted and need for future camp outs

Patrol Adviser .
The lines of commnication need to be clear. You stabbed me in the back so I can't trust you to do it. I'll cover it.

ME:
What are your talking about. I am lost on what is going on here and I have already made arrangements to get the money to buy the things the BOYS wanted.

I think WE NEED to set up an Appointment to Talk With scout master to get things straight an find out what my roll in the Patrol is compare to what I think it is.

Patrol Adviser 

Talk to him. I don' t need to be there. 

Don't spend any money. 

ME:

I believe you do some how we have hit a wall with one another and the three of us need to get it straight

Patrol Adviser 

You have hit a wall when you turned your back on the patrol and encouraged the commitee to take money from the patrol.  Its not your money to give away. I spent that money not you. It was my money not yours. When how and if I get reimbursed is for me to deal with. You don not speak for the patrol, not when you act against its interests. I'm done with this issue. I need to focus on WORK,

ME:

It is NOT your Money it is the BOYS money and they should be allowed to spend it anyway they wish to. If I can get the Money for the treasurer to purchase thing the BOYS want/need then as an PARENT and ASSISTANCE Patrol leader I have that right . The Money is not yours and never was it belongs to the BOYS and the PATROL and the only reason you have so much in the first place is because I was unable to spend any of mine and the amount was transferred over to the new Patrol. SO if I want to spend my 300 bucks on stuff for the BOYS the I should be allowed to.

Patrol Adviser 

 I have used my money so far yo fund the patrol. You have no authority to spend any of that money .

Treasurer,

Please call me if there is sny confusion about this.

Talk to the troop leadership. 

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So in the in the end we had a cheat with the scout master asst. scout master and the Committee chair. After two hour of talking and a little yelling on every ones part the end result was He is the PATROL ADVISER and as long as he is working with in the BSA guild line and in the safety guild line. (No lose of life, lime or eye) he can do what ever he with is there is no wrong way to run HIS patrol and if the boys have no say on what they do and what they buy so be it and parents have no real say on what goes on in the patrol. Parents are there to watch out for there kids to make sure they are safe and move them forward, but the PATROL ADVISER is where the buck stops and that's it deal with it.

The reason we join this troop was because it was run by the BOYS with guidance and that is not what we got anymore now I  feel that be have have a big smile and just go along with what ever the person in charge wants and we can't fight back because the leadership isn't going to listen to you as a parents and what the needs of the boys are. It's all down to what the guy in charge whats and thinks  

in the en it all comes own to the type of Patrol Adviser you get. For the most part their is a great group of people working for and in the BSA