Big Smiles the loser speeks

The Bigger man

Lets start with remember to read the head line, These are my thoughts and Opinions and I really don't care what you have to say about it, so when I post something that is the truth and it's from the losing side so what. This is what the loser had to say. Ever person says that the they need to be the bigger man about things and just drop it they lost. My question is why? Ok so they lost but are they not entitled to tell there side of things and then be done with it. Are the losers of a fight not allowed to tell there side of a story. They lost why do they always have to be the bigger man and what the hell makes them the bigger man if the lost as a matter of fact they are the smaller guy and just got stomped on by the bigger guy and now they are just trying to tell there side of the story and no one want to hear them, because they lost and they have to be the bigger man. Well you know what I say screw that. If the guy who lost need to tell his story then let them do that, because they have as much right as the guy who won and what do they always say "it's the WINNERS that always write history." Well that's because the losers has to be the bigger man and not say anything because they lost.  Screw that The loser should always be able to say what is on his mine and what his side of the story is and how he was beat in any given battle. That is the right to free speech. in today world we should be able to hear bother sides of the story, both losing and winning from the people that where there. I have a problem with people say well you just have to be the bigger man. the question is why I just got squashed I'm the smaller man. I'm the one who is looking up at the boot that just landed on me because the bigger man just won and you are telling me I should be the bigger man and not say anything anymore. Are you kidding. Yeah I just lost and have no chance to win in the future, but why should I drop it. This what the hell I think and I'm never going to be the bigger man because the bigger man won. Let me tell my side of the story even if I lost that is my right and because the winner is going to tell it his way and the losing side is not going to be told with total truth. So screw being the bigger man because I'm not I'm the smaller one and I have something to say and I'm sure as hell am going to say it I'm not fighting anymore I'm just finishing the fight with the epilogue for all to see. I'm not being a bigger man I'm not even being a sore loser I'm just finishing the story so it can be put away and move forward. the problem is that no one wants to hear it, so don't read it you don't have to but in this case here it is...

 Big Smiles for BSA -one bad apple
So I finally got so flake about a post I wrote and in some why I'm happy about that and in another I'm up set about it. First I did nothing but stat the truth which I find piss people off and I need to stop doing it and second I brought a disagreement between to ADULTS that where not being ADULTS out into the the worlds eye, but what is being an adult really mean. Two guys are having a disagreement over something and it grows and grows tell it finally exposed and a third part is need to  play intermediate. at what point are these two adults not acting as adults. they have a problem and find a third to help solve it. is it the way they are acting towards one another or what they are saying. I mean coming on we all all guilty of that. this what adults do, they disagree with one another and find away to try and move forward and that is what has happened he. The way forward was set forth by the third party. The guild line where clear thus nothing more could be done.. got it It's his way and that is pretty much it. You can put in your opinion and suggestions , but he doesn't have to take it or use them... NOW I WANT TO MAKE THIS PERFECTLY CLEAR  the BSA troop that I talked about in yesterday's blog has a huge group of great people in it, they do what they think is right for the boys from beginning to end. The PATROL ADVISERS are set out to work with in BSA guild line and safety guide line to insure all the boys have fun and enjoy there time is scouting. YES  I would still requirement the troop to any one that asked. I think it's a great troop, it's In this one Patrol I do not agree with the why things are done. It has away's been said and reinforced that we are boy's leading boys and I  don't see that happening here.
  The question is who is the BAD APPLE me (the Asst patrol adviser) for trying to get the boy to start making chooses on what they should do with there money (which this is really all about) and what they want to learn or the Patrol adviser for telling the boys what they are going to be learning and that the money the boys have errand is his to spend on the patrol on his time line and on what he thinks they need. so you tell me what you think, but remember to read the head line of this first

   What is there more to say....

 You know I don't think there is much more to say on this and in the end yeah I'm pissed off that I don't see things being don't the way should be and I was told that as long as the Patrol adviser is with in BSA guild line and safety guild lines he can run it how ever he wants. Yeah I'm Upset that We had to Patrols that became one and it feels like it's still we just joined the other patrol. Yes I'm upset that the Patrol I was leading folded and we had to join the two patrols because my boys would not show up to patrol/troop meeting and troop events. It's sad that these things have happened and I'm sure as Hell tired of people telling me to be the Bigger man..Because the truth of the matter I'm not I'm the smaller guy that has gotten his ass kicked around and now I'm tired of it so I'm saying something like I have the right to. Just in a very public form. using the Truth to back me up and if you don't like it to damn bad. I'm the smaller guy in this case and I want to be heard, you want to fire back go ahead I welcome it but remember I have all ready lost and just putting out my epilogue and by you telling me to be the bigger man is just making it grow, because I sure as hell am not. the bigger guy has his way  

Big Smiles for the BSA

THE PROBLEM RANT...
 So I have a boy how is boy scout and when we started there was one Patrol and then more boy's where add and the Patrol was broken in to two Patrols no big deal and time goes by and a few of my boys decide that they no long want to show to our patrol meetings or the troop meeting but when they feel like it and one or two or drop out and one moves away so we had to merge the two patrols together and form a whole new patrol. With time both Patrol's managed to gain money to buy supplies for camping or what ever else the patrol might need as long as the boys make the decisions  because it is there money with guidance from the Patrol adviser. Now for the time we got our money I have been trying to buy the boys new cooking equipment but was unable to do it before the Patrols merge and the new Patrol Adviser refuse to buy then new equipment or anything they wants.  he believes the money belongs to him not the boys. So I did the wrong thing and did an end run around and went to the boys and told them that they had Money to spend for new stuff and need to spend some of it. Because this years service projects are coming up and we might not get any money out of it because we have not spent any of the money we got from last years. Now the Patrol also has twice as much as any new incoming. So the Patrol adviser naturally is not happy with me but he finally agreed with the boys and broken down and said OK buy the stuff. SO I go home and make a phone call or two and have then money ready to pick up and a list of the stuff the boys wanted when I get and e-mail saying don't buy any thing..
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Patrol Adviser
Do not buy anything for the patrol. If you do it will need to be returned. I thought about everything you said and its clear to me that good decisions will not be rushed. I will buy for the patrol and get reimbursed from the troop on my timeline.

Turn the tents back into the troop next week.   I will draw tents for the boys before Junes camp out.

Please don't speak for the patrol anymore.

ME:
Please explain why, these are the things that the BOYS said that they wanted and need for future camp outs

Patrol Adviser .
The lines of commnication need to be clear. You stabbed me in the back so I can't trust you to do it. I'll cover it.

ME:
What are your talking about. I am lost on what is going on here and I have already made arrangements to get the money to buy the things the BOYS wanted.

I think WE NEED to set up an Appointment to Talk With scout master to get things straight an find out what my roll in the Patrol is compare to what I think it is.

Patrol Adviser 

Talk to him. I don' t need to be there. 

Don't spend any money. 

ME:

I believe you do some how we have hit a wall with one another and the three of us need to get it straight

Patrol Adviser 

You have hit a wall when you turned your back on the patrol and encouraged the commitee to take money from the patrol.  Its not your money to give away. I spent that money not you. It was my money not yours. When how and if I get reimbursed is for me to deal with. You don not speak for the patrol, not when you act against its interests. I'm done with this issue. I need to focus on WORK,

ME:

It is NOT your Money it is the BOYS money and they should be allowed to spend it anyway they wish to. If I can get the Money for the treasurer to purchase thing the BOYS want/need then as an PARENT and ASSISTANCE Patrol leader I have that right . The Money is not yours and never was it belongs to the BOYS and the PATROL and the only reason you have so much in the first place is because I was unable to spend any of mine and the amount was transferred over to the new Patrol. SO if I want to spend my 300 bucks on stuff for the BOYS the I should be allowed to.

Patrol Adviser 

 I have used my money so far yo fund the patrol. You have no authority to spend any of that money .

Treasurer,

Please call me if there is sny confusion about this.

Talk to the troop leadership. 

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So in the in the end we had a cheat with the scout master asst. scout master and the Committee chair. After two hour of talking and a little yelling on every ones part the end result was He is the PATROL ADVISER and as long as he is working with in the BSA guild line and in the safety guild line. (No lose of life, lime or eye) he can do what ever he with is there is no wrong way to run HIS patrol and if the boys have no say on what they do and what they buy so be it and parents have no real say on what goes on in the patrol. Parents are there to watch out for there kids to make sure they are safe and move them forward, but the PATROL ADVISER is where the buck stops and that's it deal with it.

The reason we join this troop was because it was run by the BOYS with guidance and that is not what we got anymore now I  feel that be have have a big smile and just go along with what ever the person in charge wants and we can't fight back because the leadership isn't going to listen to you as a parents and what the needs of the boys are. It's all down to what the guy in charge whats and thinks  

in the en it all comes own to the type of Patrol Adviser you get. For the most part their is a great group of people working for and in the BSA